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Cinder
2 months

I can't take this anymore..

I'm sorry, I feel so at loss.. I made a card because I am being harassed and Reporting had done nothing so I tried to discuss it all but he reported me for "harassing him" by posting it and my card got taken down. His commends didn't, he didn't get restricted or anything at all. He got to insult me lile I was nothing.

I've been dealing with a lot and really trying to help on here. A lot of new users have thanked me for giving them information because they didn't know about the rules they were breaking.

He first started harassing me because I was on cards with broken rules or spam of just photos telling them this isn't the way.

Now he came on my card about a trip I went to this place you can see in my card about Happy Place. He said the worst thing. I feel disgusting now. I can't sleep and I had a depressive episode. I'm not blocking him because I want him banned, no one else should deal with this.

Photo #1 from Toronto, Canada by Cinder made on 2018-11-19 08:42 for Sola

he ended it with his name and "any female gets hit on :)"

What did I do to deserve that?

Ask not to be harassed by creeps. Yep that's criminal now.

Photo #2 from Toronto, Canada by Cinder made on 2018-11-19 08:42 for Sola

As you can see above.

But that's not all he's said, feel free to go look at he who shall not be named on this card.

Photo #3 from Toronto, Canada by Cinder made on 2018-11-19 08:42 for Sola

And there's so much more.

This is harassment and cyberbullying and it's been ignored by devs. No one will help me restrict him when he's clearly targeting me. He likes this. I think he'd be happy if I freaking killed myself to let's be thankful I'm one of few Depressives without social tendencies.

Photo #4 from Toronto, Canada by Cinder made on 2018-11-19 08:42 for Sola

This cannot keep happening

I don't want to have to keep feeling like it's better if users assume I'm a guy because they only respect makle opinions.

I don't want to be targeted for asking that I don't get freaking harassed.

I don't want to be yelled at for helping new users when the users I help don't complain but others do. I get messages every day from pelple that I help with things.

Photo #5 from Toronto, Canada by Cinder made on 2018-11-19 08:42 for Sola
Photo #6 from Toronto, Canada by Cinder made on 2018-11-19 08:42 for Sola
Photo #7 from Toronto, Canada by Cinder made on 2018-11-19 08:42 for Sola
Photo #8 from Toronto, Canada by Cinder made on 2018-11-19 08:42 for Sola

I want him gone, he's made me some enemy while all I've done is try and help. I can't do this anymore.

Photo #9 from Toronto, Canada by Cinder made on 2018-11-19 08:42 for Sola

If he doesn't get punished for Everything I'm leaving. Matt already deleted the app because of this.

Push for Abuse to be held against users. Push for read response to Reports! I'll check in but if things don't change I'm gone.

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Alucard
Did you tried to mail the devs about this ? You can mute and block him so at least he can't comment on your cards anymore.
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CinderAuthor
Just got the response "Hello there. I can see in this comments that you and Seeing Red have some personal issues. Why can't you block him? The same thing can be done by other users who don't want to get any comments from him. Can you please tell me the reasons of you refusing to use this function, please?" So yeah basically they don't care. Thanks Anastasia.
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Hilda
Cinder, did you answer their question? It’s a legitimate inquiry, they want to know why the function they’ve provided for dealing with harassment isn’t enough. There are jerks everywhere, and sometimes there are just personality clashes that bring out the worst in someone (that’s not an excuse for poor conduct, just an explanation). It’s an unfortunate fact of life that we all have to deal with. The best thing you can do is stop all interaction with the individual in question, and above all else, stop letting him/her know how much s/he’s getting to you. Tbh, all that does is encourage the behavior. Vulnerability doesn’t always arouse someone’s compassion; sometimes it provokes irritation, contempt and meanness. In no way do I mean to sound harsh, but that’s just the way of the world.
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Opie ♻️
Alucard, muting and blocking are BROKEN. They don't work, even if she wanted to go down that route. Which she shouldn't have to. When it gets to the level of someone feeling explicitly harassed, it's time for other measures. I don't know what those are, but I would join in a group of others in writing to the devs about it, and possibly writing to the Apple Store etc to see about getting Sola removed for allowing something to go unchecked.
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CinderAuthor
Hilda, I did answer her, no reply.
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ml3269
Pro Creator
Cinder, try it in the telegram group... (?)
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CinderAuthor
ml3269, it's been dealt with now. They reached out. If he contacts me in a harassing way he gets restricted. Same for me to him but I've never acted first so we're fine.
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Seeing Red
Well, that's a lot to take in... What do you figure this user should be restricted for, when you were the one who's card got deleted for targeting? Seeing Red ~ :)
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Obtiks
dude, why?
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heisenberg
May I ask how old you actually are, Red? Did you previously have some difficulties with self-confident or .. let's say superficial women in school or elsewhere? Were you hurt deep in your little innocent heart when you were a child? Didn't she want to date you, Red?
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CinderAuthor
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lafanga
Buddy, the only red here to see is your own reflection. These comments are too personal, hurtful and outright obnoxious. Even if your intentions were to protect Cinder from self-harm, you can clearly see that it has backfired.. rather horribly.. She does not need it anyway. I'd suggest you do some introspection.. it's not about winning or losing.. it's about respecting people and their decisions.. we all say a lot of stuff when we are angry.. but it's silly to hold on to them like little children.. I would expect you to step up and apologise. Though it's totally your decision.
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PlagKeeper
I’ve read the comments and I can only say one thing... Kudos buddy you’ve done the one thing I’ve tried so hard to do make a girl on the verge of depression I mean I’ve tried so fucking hard like Jesus I’m impressed can I have some tips I’ve been doing this awhile and have never seen such results! It would be exhilarating and so flattering for some to post a long ass card about me like this one!
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Opie ♻️
Seeing Red, give it a rest, eh? When someone asks you to leave them alone, no good can come from ignoring that request.
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PlagKeeper
Opie ♻️, ...
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Opie ♻️
PlagKeeper, yeah... .
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PlagKeeper
Opie ♻️,
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PlagKeeper
Opie ♻️, oh shit I really didn’t expect that to do anything
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Clorox Bleach
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Obtiks
Yeah, bullying isn’t real, dont go to school.
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Syeda zainab
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Joba
You made that , is a cause and effect
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Jale
Pro Creator
I got you, Cinder as a woman. And I am really sorry that you are experiencing such things, going through emotional downs. But just share your cards (they are interesting and amazing) and just block the user who is insulting you! Don’t answer and don’t waste your time and nerves. You are young and maybe impulsive but you really should know that sometimes it is ok just let the things go away. By the time you’ll see that there are a lot of bad people around the world and you can’t fight with them. So, stay strong, and don’t pay attention cause it really will have a bad impact on your health. Live your life, share it with us sometimes and be happy 💙
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CinderAuthor
I appreciate it.
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Obtiks
Cinder, you are one the nicest people here, and the community is constantly thanking you for it, dont get down by that one dude who tries to put you down. As Jale said, just ignore.
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5̀øÑ͜ ̕0f Æ̨ ğłīťç̴H
Pro Creator
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
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CinderAuthor
Thank you. It means a lot.
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queen
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nachdenken!
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M Abid Khan
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🚀 Josh
Ignore. Don’t waste another joule on this arsehat. There are still plenty of good people on app if you need us. Stay strong.
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Nimra .
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JHel🌐🌶🍏
Don’t wast your energy like this. There are so many idiots in the world. Why not spend more time with the nice people around here?
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SimplyATable
Cinder, this it's not good for anyone. He isn't going to win if you block him, he just won't have an audience. I'm going to block seeing red, and I really hope you'll do the same.
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Escape
Block and ignore, continue posting your cards which are some of the best on the app.
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CinderAuthor
Thanks I appreciate it
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🍼🏍🔥Garsbriel❓
Pro Creator
Cinder You didn't want to let him win. Be strong. Think to the only one who worth your love and your attention. Block and ignore him. Never let him a small chance to reach you. Ignore him Remember: "Never feed the troll"
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Peter
Pro Creator
Cinder, I am your friend , you are liked by so many. Don't let anyone or anything get to you. Life is to short. F.I.D.O. forget it and drive on. Your the best !!!
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Jabba Ree 🌹
Cinder, just ignore and don't reply. Basically, trolls don't have a life and they wanna prove the world that they worth something. Anyway, a grown up person wouldn't do that for this long. I really can't imagine a 30+ y.o person to troll teens.
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CinderAuthor
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Nina One
I will. Cinder, you’re brave and you have integrity and a strong sense of justice. So of course you’ve fought rather than blocked. But you need your energy for yourself right now. Seeing Red isn’t worth this much attention. I’m appalled that he has engaged in such behaviour, though not entirely surprised. Vindictiveness is his key attribute. His icon picture has always struck me as unpleasantly apt.
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heisenberg
I'm not a big fan of blocking and maybe you should had wait a little longer to do so. On the other hand you have a good reason to do it now... It's just a bit unfair that he get shots from all directions on this card and now he has no chance to defend himself. But well... I think it's the best way to handle the difficulties between him and you.
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SimplyATable
Thank you, seeing red is a horrible human being, and nothing is going to stop him.
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CinderAuthor
heisenberg, I've given him multiple chances. He doesn't care about being told he's wrong. I tried other ways before blocking.
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CinderAuthor
Cinder, he's the only person I've blocked
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CinderAuthor
I'd like to say that me suggesting others block him is not targeting towards him. It's simply a suggestion as to deal with the issue of targeting from him.
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PlagKeeper
Normally I’d say fuck you for posting so much to read but I must say I almost hmm what’s the word care heh you’ve peaked my interest for the most part but now I’m bored
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Infidel Castro
This is why blocking exists
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5̀øÑ͜ ̕0f Æ̨ ğłīťç̴H
Pro Creator
This and just this. Ok maybe spammer aswell😅
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M Abid Khan
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🍼🏍🔥Garsbriel❓
Pro Creator
Cinder This guy is unrecoverable. And you worth so much more than him. Don't give up please. 😘😘😘
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CinderAuthor
I've blocked him. I'm gonna stay at least for now
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🍼🏍🔥Garsbriel❓
Pro Creator
Cinder I already saw you've blocked him I've read all the comments. 😘 Don't forget to give a kiss to Matt 😉
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CinderAuthor
🍼🏍🔥Garsbriel❓, Matt will definitely get a kiss when I'm there for Thanksgiving this weekend
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ml3269
Pro Creator
Cinder, good decision. I always liked your cards. 👍🏽
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CinderAuthor
ml3269, thank you.
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Random Obsessions
As an ex-pre social media troll, just blocking these idiots is probably the best course of action. Trying to get a negative response is what these people go for and purely for the sake of entertaining themselves at the cost of others. I imagine the devs and mods are flooded with the huge influx of new users and also can't live on here so I wouldn't take it personally.
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CinderAuthor
They're all on there discussing my mental health and how I'm in the wrong for being harassed.
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nachdenken!
Cinder, a very direct and maybe blunt advise: stay out of that discussion for good! Do not not read, do not comment, do not explain, do not justify, neither here, nor on their card. There is nothing to justify, bcs this is no longer about who was right or wrong. This is solely about harming each others feelings. The sooner you detach yourself from that emotionally, the better for you. Do yourself that favour, please. We want you to stay around for longer, undamaged 😊
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PlagKeeper
Ha! I knew it
Joey
This is messed up. I'm sorry this happening to you.
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CinderAuthor
Thanks, it's been really intense to deal with.
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Nina One
Cinder, I agree with nachdenken. Block and avoid. You don’t have to prove anything; we already very much appreciate you. And we know nasty vs. nice when we see it. You need your emotional energy and focus for other things.
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CinderAuthor
*UPDATE* It's all been dealt with. Devs shut this all down so we're good now. I won't contact him and if he contacts me in a negative way he gets restricted.
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SimplyATable
Thank god this is over now.
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Joshy1988
You should block and mute him! Ignore every comment of him. Don’t even read his comments. Pretend he’s not existing
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CinderAuthor
I've blocked him. That's why he lashed out and made a card. Anyways devs stepped in so I'm fine now. That's all I wanted.
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Zaib
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queen
Jiiiiiiii
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Digitt
I just want to say that since I have autism I understand how it feels to have a mental breakdown. Especially due to someone triggering it. It's really hard and people who don't have disorders don't always understand it. I just want to say that I do and if you ever need to talk I'm here 💙
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CinderAuthor
I appreciate it! Thank you for your support. 😊
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Zaid
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nachdenken!
Completely inapropriate! Reported!
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CinderAuthor
Just make cards people like. Also comment irrelevant, don't spam.
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Nila khannama
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CinderAuthor
Not relevant
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Toqeer ahmed
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Maryam Gul
Don't Reply.Just Ignore it.
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CinderAuthor
Too late and devs got involved so it's fine now.
hana
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nachdenken!
Completely inapropriate! Reported!
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Shanwaz786
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Shahzad
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AH ABDULLAH
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CinderAuthor
Don't spam. Read cards.
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AleezaKhan
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sikandar sli
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CinderAuthor
No, no spam.
Girish N Patel
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Girish N Patel
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CinderAuthor
Stop commenting this on my cards!
MARSHMALLOWS
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musham
Why are you taking him so seriously. Sometimes you need to put some matters asides and let them out of your mind. Things will get better.
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sikandar sli
I support every time every one guys bat you support me every one guy
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AleezaKhan
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CinderAuthor
Don't spam all my cards
queen
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Mohamad2003
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Escape
If you're so much stronger, why do you keep referring back to something so long ago pretending people attacked you for nothing, just let it go and move on with whatever life you have left. Go back to your millions of spammy friends who love you so much.
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Escape
Crazee Girl, then enjoy your vapid exchanges and leave others alone. Dear.
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Escape
Crazee Girl, I know how kind you believe you are, you post many cards and comments about it along with those bragging about your generosity to others. True kindness would be not obviously enjoying what Cinder is going through and comparing it to the imaginary slights you believe you suffered. What happened to all the pictures of your son, you don't post about him anymore? However, this is now card jacking, something you specialize in and I will not assist you in it further.
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Escape
Crazee Girl, don't let the door hit you in the ass on your way out
CinderAuthor
I wasn't rude to you. I gave you evidence of a post being stolen and you got mad that I called it idiotic to steal content. I didn't call you idiotic it was on some bots card. You call them your friends but you don't know them. I'm not allowed to discuss the Issues with Red anymore but I already explained it to you. You keep acting innocent but you're not, and I'm not in Highschool. Clearly everyone has problems but that doesn't make anyone's problems less relevant or unrecognizable because someone's always gonna have it worse. I was defending myself, in every case. I don't act first, or target people. I just don't stand for it when people act like they can disrespect me. I'm not cruel and I didn't hurt you, I've just pointed out the facts. What did you grow stronger from. I've spoken with you like twice, I didn't harass you or go after you. Relax.
Escape
Cinder, feel free to delete my responses to her attacks.
Umer Khan
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Escape
Umer Khan, stop stalking me
sikandar sli
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sikandar sli
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sikandar sli
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Shahin66
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Hj Rahman
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M Abid Khan
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Peter
Pro Creator
Cinder and Escape first how are you both.Second I don't really get involved with this hateful junk that's going on with you Cinder but I must say like escape says,let this junk go. I was told by a psychologist once. Out of each persons mouth comes either a loving response or a cry for help. This jerk is crying for help. We really have to pity him or feel sad for him because he has such a low self esteem he has to stoop to this level to make himself feel better at the expense of others. I love both you and escapes cards. As I said before you are the best. Sorry for the rant, I thought it might help you through this :-)
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CinderAuthor
I appreciate it, I'm much better now and he's been blocked. Thanks for reaching out.
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Escape
Peter, I'm fine, thanks for asking and complimenting my cards.
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Peter
Pro Creator
Escape, thank you for your cards
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Peter
Pro Creator
Cinder, OK have a great one
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dardem73
If I am not mistaken, some/all comments aren't filtered/reviewed/classified by humans, the AI did.
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