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🗣⚭⚠ 04                 Communication Assignment.    ➡

In conversation with someone and/or when asked a question, wait 3 seconds before responding.   ➡

Try this for as often as  you can with anyone who converses with you for a minimum of 5 days.       ➡

Save this card and return to write about your results.   ➡

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//ENVAR CREATE// //ENVAR UPDATE// RESPONSE_DELAY = 5000; Will do.
salzmann
A great experiment. The partner thinks, you don't understand the question and while thinking about it you'll see, that you misunderstood the question on the first sight. So it is a good method to become a good conversation but it is hard to do so.
Owen Meany
Ok. I'm in.
Owen Meany
Oops I forgot
OxalateAuthor
I'm looking forward to hearing back any results.
CATLOAF
I did it for 5 non-consecutive days, and I had no one mention anything to me about it. I was kinda hoping someone would call me out on it, but oh well.
OxalateAuthor
⚓CATLOAF🔗, So no one seemed to notice, or at least they didn't mention it. Certainly their perception wasn't the thought of you following some 3 second rule. ...and no one called you out. So what do you believe was their perception?
CATLOAF
Oxalate, That I was thinking of a response.
OxalateAuthor
Often we have a tendency to not really listen. In fact most of us are busy thinking of what we are going to say next while the other person is still talking. This exercise is designed to give the appearance of listening and to observe and practice the use of strategic pauses in conversations. As a result you may find where you would normally interject into the conversation, by waiting just 3 seconds, the other person still carries on. Also when the other person is finished, and there is a 3 second pause, communication starts to show with body language and eye contact (or lack of eye contact) before words. The other person may believe this is due to applying thought to what they said before just speaking. They might also assume some other emotional reasoning behind the pause, such as sadness or disapproval. Regardless of what the person thinks the one thing they should feel is that you were listening.
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