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I'm so Sexy

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Sex, we have been led to believe, is as natural as breathing. But in fact, contends British philosopher Alain de Botton, it is "close to rocket science in complexity." It's not only a powerful force, it's often contrary to many other things we care about. Sex inherently sets up conflicts within us. We crave sex with people we don't know or love. It makes us want to do things that seem immoral or degrading, like slapping someone or being tied up. We feel awkward asking the people we love for the sex acts we really want.There's no denying that sex has its sweaty charms, and in its most exquisite moments dissolves the isolation that embodied life imposes on us. But those moments are rare, the exception rather than the rule, says de Botton, founder of London's School of Life. "Sex is always going to cause us headaches; it's not something we can miraculously grow relaxed about." We suffer privately, feeling "painfully strange about the sex we are either longing to have or struggling to avoid."If we turn to sex books to help us work out this central experience of our lives, we are typically assured that most problems are mechanical, a matter of method. In his own new book, How to Think More About Sex, de Botton makes the case that our difficulties stem more from the multiplicity of things we want out of life, or the accrual of everyday resentments, or the weirdness of the sex drive itself. Here are some of the most basic questions it answers

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Today in Switzerland :

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I go to sleep alone, and wake up alone. I take walks. I work until I'm tired. I watch the wind play with the trash that's been under the snow all winter. Everything seems simple until you think about it. Why is love intensified by abscence?

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Love is when you accept everything about that person. When you have too many reasons to leave them but still had only one reason to stay, you love him. 💜

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CHALLENGE ACCEPTED

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Ещё раз "ПРИВЕТ" всем, кто меня знает и с кем мне посчастливилось познакомиться благодаря в основном "Plag" и конечно "Sola".

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Hi, this is Bogdan. I came back after locking and deleting the account. Thanks to the moderators of Sola that they responded to my request,gave me a second chance and restored the account.

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I AM BACK ! MY ACCOUNT IS LOCKED SORRY EVERYONE . PLEASE LET USE SOLA APPLICATION BECAUSE IT HAS NO SIGNIFICANT IMAGES! I WILL SURVIVE PLEASE HELP ME HELPING MY LOCATION # 1

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we must stick to these rules and we will have a better relationship.

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It bugs me when people say that my wife and I only show our love for each other because we are newlyweds

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If you can’t laugh together in bed, the chances are you are incompatible, anyway. I’d rather hear a girl laugh well than try to turn me on with long, silent, soulful, secret looks. If you can laugh with a woman, everything else falls into place.

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Got ‘em!

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hello I am Joseph from Ghana in West Africa .. 27 years old.I am univesity student and also do music as part time . i love playing instruments and love church. im kinda jovial, controversial and more .lol

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Sex is like snow, you never know how many inches you're going to get or how long it will las

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Is this somewhere you would love to be with the one you love?

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Let’s have a party! Going to the roof, listen to some music…

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hello, I'm Onoscity gentle boy and easy going person.

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Your love is all I need to feel complete.

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The belief that there is only one right way to live, only one right way to regulate religious, political, sexual, medical affairs is the root cause of the greatest threat to man: members of his own species, bent on ensuring his salvation, security, and sanity.

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indeed she had feelings, but they were mixed feelings #blackandwhite #fujifilm

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It is rare to go through life without feeling that we are somehow a bit odd about s… It is an area in which most of us have a painful impression, in our heart of hearts, that we are quite unusual. Despite being one of the most private activities, s.. is nevertheless surrounded by a range of powerfully socially sanctioned ideas that codify how normal people are meant to feel about and deal with the matter. In truth, however, few of us are remotely normal sexually. We are almost all haunted by guilt ](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/guilt)[and neuroses, by phobias and disruptive desires, by indifference and disgust. We are universally deviant—but only in relation to some highly distorted ideals of normality.Most of what we are sexually remains impossible to communicate with anyone whom we would want to think well of us. Men and women in love instinctively hold back from sharing more than a fraction of their desires out of a fear usually accurate, of generating intolerable disgust in their partners.Nothing is erotic that isn't also, with the wrong person, revolting, which is precisely what makes erotic moments so intense: At the precise juncture where disgust could be at its height, we find only welcome and permission. Think of two tongues exploring the deeply private realm of the mouth—that dark, moist cavity that no one but our dentist usually enters. The privileged nature of the union between two people is sealed by an act that, with someone else, would horrify them both.What unfolds between a couple in the bedroom is an act of mutual reconciliation between two secret sexual selves emerging at last from sinful solitude. Their behavior is starkly at odds with the behavior expected of them by the civilized world. At last, in the semi-darkness a couple can confess to the many wondrous and demented things that having a body drives them to want.

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S** we have been led to believe, is as natural as breathing. But in fact, contends British philosopher Alain de Botton, it is "close to rocket science in complexity." It's not only a powerful force, it's often contrary to many other things we care about. S** inherently sets up conflicts within us. We crave s** with people we don't know or love. It makes us want to do things that seem immoral or degrading, like slapping someone or being tied up. We feel awkward asking the people we love for the s** acts we really want.There's no denying that s** has its sweaty charms, and in its most exquisite moments dissolves the isolation that embodied life imposes on us. But those moments are rare, the exception rather than the rule, says de Botton, founder of London's School of Life. "S** is always going to cause us headaches; it's not something we can miraculously grow relaxed about." We suffer privately, feeling "painfully strange about the s** we are either longing to have or struggling to avoid."If we turn to s** books to help us work out this central experience of our lives, we are typically assured that most problems are mechanical, a matter of method. In his own new book, How to Think More About S** de Botton makes the case that our difficulties stem more from the multiplicity of things we want out of life, or the accrual of everyday resentments, or the weirdness of the s** drive itself. Here are some of the most basic questions it answers

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Is love just caring about someone??

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avenoir - n.

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Please don't doubt my love for you, its the only thing I'm sure of.

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How adorable and cute are this🐶🐶😍

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Schlimmstes Date aller Zeiten? Mann geht auf die Toilette und schickt ihr eine unglaubliche SMS

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today is the birthday of my sweetheart. the love of my life and my future. she has been there for me in my hard days and she deserves a mega praise. happy birthday Olori. love you to the moon

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Happy Cat 😸

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Just So You Know, Telling Everyone That We Are Just Friends Is The Hardest Thing I Have Ever Had To Do…

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Fortunately art is a community effort - a small but select community living in a spiritualized world endeavoring to interpret the wars and the solitudes of the flesh.

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Love comes to those who still hope even though they’ve been disappointed, to those who still believe even though they’ve been betrayed, to those who still love even though they’ve been hurt before.

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The 😼 boss of my home, chillin' under the warm afternoon sun

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